Confessions of Gen Y

I was having lunch with some friends of mine on Monday and we were having a nice old time talking about guys and general stuff when suddenly the tide turned slightly and it the conversation turned into the old 'you'll never get a guy if you...'

While I appreciate their general advice these two ladies are both Gen X, although on one of their behalves she didn't really partake in this particular vein of the conversation.
Not that I mean to have a go at Gen X in this blog, I merely aim to point out the differences between the 2 generations.

I have been single for forever pretty much and as such have had the time to really think about who I am, what I like and what I am looking for etc etc.
I know what I'm like, I'm not the easiest person in the World to get along with, I'm picky and critical and at times brutally honest. And I'm not dumb enough to think that these are qualities men regularly list on their list of top 10 desirable traits in women, just naieve enough to hope that someone finds them cute.

But as I said I've been on my own for a long time. I've built up the person I am over these years after having who I am handed to me, forced on me, ignored by the people I love and stripped by people I now hate. For a relatively short life I have been through a lot, a lot more than I would wish on anyone my age and when it comes down to it, if you don't know who you are then what good is it to try and get someone else to love you?

I guess what I'm getting at here is that I won't change who I am or how I go about things just to snag a guy. I've worked hard to be me, without constraints and I won't hide this from anyone for any reason. It's hard finding out who you are and to give it away, or change it to impress someone is not only short changing them, but more importantly you're shortchanging yourself.